Who is it that You BE?

An invitation to stop “doing” and start allowing.

Our society has it backward.

We have ourselves so focused on what we “do” instead of who we “be.” When we go to parties, people attempt to converse with us by asking the ubiquitous question, “What do you do?” When we talk with children we ask them, “What do you want to BE when you grow up” but we don’t really mean that question how we phrase it. We really mean “what career do you want to pursue?”

Can you see how when we base our lives around a career we are setting ourselves up for potential disappointment and pain?

Yes, even if we love what we do and make a lot of money doing it. Why? Because we are making our lives, our very existence, conditional on an outside source. What happens if you “lose” that job? What happens when we retire? What happens if we stop loving it? What happens if we want to take a break and start a family or travel? Does our identity cease to exist? Or do we keep defining ourselves in terms of what we once “did?” Are we always an ex-football player, lawyer, chef… fill in the blank? Do we then hang onto the “past” in order to make ourselves relevant?

We can expand this idea beyond our careers.

When we define ourselves by other areas of our lives, we box ourselves into a corner. I’m a “wife,” I’m a “mother,” I’m a…